A peaceful divorce is possible, but it starts with you taking a step forward for yourself.
Divorce can be frightening, and as fear creeps in, if you don’t manage it... fear will keep you stuck. It will keep you in this place of pain and discontent.
Fear of the unknown, of hurting him, of being alone.
Yet at the exact same time, you’ll be consumed with a feeling of certainty that you can’t continue on with the way things are.
You’ve wondered, “How can I endure this until the kids are gone?”
Because while the thought of staying in an unhappy marriage is unbearable… hurting your kids would be even worse.
What if they have to worry about their parents fighting every time they’re in a room together?
What if they feel forced to take sides?
What if this becomes the big, traumatic event that ruins their childhood?
Plus, with kids involved, you’re going to be in a relationship with your spouse for the rest of your life (sporting events, parent/teacher conferences, graduations, weddings, birthday parties, grandkids)...
So a messy, contentious divorce is less than ideal. In fact, it’s unthinkable.