A peaceful divorce is possible, but it starts with managing your mind.
Divorce can be frightening, and as fear creeps in, if you don’t manage it... fear will take over.
Fear of the unknown.
Fear of hurting him.
Fear of being alone.
Fear of trying and failing.
Fear of starting over as a mature woman.
Fear will keep you stuck…
Yet at the exact same time, you’ll be consumed with a feeling of certainty that you can’t continue on with the way things are.
Not feeling connected.
Not feeling loved.
Not feeling supported or appreciated.
Not feeling desired or attractive.
You’ve wondered, “How can I endure this for another 5-10 years until the kids are gone?”
Because while the thought of staying in an unhappy marriage is unbearable… hurting your kids would be even worse.
What if they have to worry about their parents fighting every time they’re in a room together?
What if they feel forced to take sides?
What if this becomes the big, traumatic event that ruins their childhood?
Plus, with kids involved, you’re going to be in relationship with your spouse for the rest of your life (sporting events, parent/teacher conferences, graduations, weddings, birthday parties, grandkids)...
So a messy, contentious divorce is less than ideal. In fact, it’s unthinkable.